1 00:01:25,70 --> 00:01:28,02 You're. 2 00:01:38,51 --> 00:01:41,73 Young. You're. 3 00:01:47,19 --> 00:01:49,19 Here. You're. 4 00:02:44,40 --> 00:02:49,74 Was hit the 5 00:02:49,75 --> 00:02:55,42 air. Was the 6 00:02:55,43 --> 00:03:00,43 N.H.S. 7 00:03:01,01 --> 00:03:07,65 The eat. Eat. 8 00:03:09,84 --> 00:03:12,04 Eat. Eat. 9 00:03:24,83 --> 00:03:26,05 Fish Bowl. 10 00:03:35,23 --> 00:03:39,19 Good morning. Doctor in just 11 00:03:39,20 --> 00:03:44,86 a moment to recover. A Past story was so touching and identify with that. 12 00:03:46,34 --> 00:03:53,15 I have. Practiced somehow I'm such questions. As. To 13 00:03:53,16 --> 00:03:54,64 risk leaving 14 00:03:54,65 --> 00:04:00,62 a test run to. The top today was. 15 00:04:02,57 --> 00:04:09,26 Called Learning to stay connected. But when we. Had this discussion about the 16 00:04:09,27 --> 00:04:11,20 talk you forgot for a moment that this is 17 00:04:11,21 --> 00:04:17,68 a season of ours and I do the same doctor who Season one liners. And I call it. 18 00:04:19,24 --> 00:04:20,21 Worry to create 19 00:04:20,22 --> 00:04:26,27 a nonviolent on. Trying to talk I just changed the title to fit you 20 00:04:27,21 --> 00:04:31,38 to me on the season of nonviolence just. 21 00:04:34,24 --> 00:04:39,25 Twelve three sixty five instead of not a program so sometimes I forget for 22 00:04:39,26 --> 00:04:45,85 a moment the women in the season because rowers are. And that's I think that story 23 00:04:45,86 --> 00:04:49,81 one of Australia. And talking about where I am today. 24 00:04:52,87 --> 00:04:58,51 I love geography ever since school. I went to University of Oregon I was rationed 25 00:04:58,52 --> 00:05:03,94 man on the coast so this is easy to identify with there's not that different in 26 00:05:03,95 --> 00:05:10,15 fact my ideal world when I went to college I studied geography I decided anywhere 27 00:05:10,16 --> 00:05:15,46 between San Francisco and Seattle was perfect. And then I spent 28 00:05:15,47 --> 00:05:21,15 a lot of time growing up and going around the world and my perfect world trouble it 29 00:05:21,16 --> 00:05:27,89 became anywhere between Santa Rosa and Salem. So here I am today standing right in 30 00:05:27,90 --> 00:05:31,67 the middle of my partner. So thank you for having. 31 00:05:35,59 --> 00:05:36,55 I'm going to take 32 00:05:36,56 --> 00:05:40,69 a moment just to think about some of the things that you already know and remind 33 00:05:40,70 --> 00:05:45,64 them remind us of them because sometimes we forget for a moment and that is 34 00:05:45,65 --> 00:05:52,53 a. Goddess all arrears. And Goddess of Love. If we 35 00:05:52,54 --> 00:05:58,16 really totally knew that an integrated back into the core of our being we could go 36 00:05:58,17 --> 00:06:05,07 home that be the end of the matter but we don't always recognize that every moment 37 00:06:05,08 --> 00:06:11,43 of our life so wanting to stay connected is to be able to. Stand in that feeling 38 00:06:12,00 --> 00:06:17,35 most of the time and when we start feeling to be able to quickly get right back 39 00:06:17,36 --> 00:06:24,16 into it so that's what the talk is about today. We've never really been taught OK I 40 00:06:24,17 --> 00:06:30,15 don't feel. God how do I step back and that's sometimes what we have problems with 41 00:06:30,25 --> 00:06:37,16 that we somehow think about not being connected to what is being real for 42 00:06:37,17 --> 00:06:41,41 a moment we know better but we don't always remember that for 43 00:06:41,42 --> 00:06:47,72 a moment so that's really what we want to talk about. Today how can. I ask your 44 00:06:47,73 --> 00:06:54,12 question. How many of you consider yourselves controllers. You like to control your 45 00:06:54,34 --> 00:06:59,74 environment control our life insurance if you're going to fly with that. How many 46 00:06:59,75 --> 00:07:06,44 of you do not like to be controlled. Will. You see the distance with the. 47 00:07:07,88 --> 00:07:11,80 Real problem here really dysfunctional belief system if we want to stay connected 48 00:07:11,81 --> 00:07:17,56 to God those two beliefs together the world so that's kind of what we're talking 49 00:07:17,57 --> 00:07:21,47 about is why. We're there and how we get. 50 00:07:25,07 --> 00:07:30,10 We always get angry for the one reason. You know what the reason that we get any 51 00:07:30,11 --> 00:07:36,26 reporters it never varies it's never good for anybody the reason we're angry is 52 00:07:36,27 --> 00:07:39,89 always because I think I should get angry when we have 53 00:07:39,90 --> 00:07:44,90 a bleeding inside of us of saying OK this is Jewish and I get angry and we're going 54 00:07:44,91 --> 00:07:50,26 to we've learned that from childhood when this happens we go to that place and we 55 00:07:50,27 --> 00:07:50,88 say OK I'm 56 00:07:50,89 --> 00:07:57,19 a Brit now because I'm supposed to be. One of my guns. Just disconnected from God. 57 00:07:58,73 --> 00:08:01,43 That's why we come here on Sunday to say oh there's 58 00:08:01,44 --> 00:08:06,49 a time I need to connect but once we learn this lesson we can come here news on 59 00:08:06,50 --> 00:08:10,70 Sunday to socialize with friends instead of just to reconnect. 60 00:08:14,80 --> 00:08:19,55 I think you can understand and that's why this is important because that's what we 61 00:08:19,56 --> 00:08:23,81 want to know we want to be connected to God Our nature is low we step out 62 00:08:23,82 --> 00:08:30,06 a lot. We disconnect from our shores our way of being. 63 00:08:31,44 --> 00:08:31,61 There's 64 00:08:31,62 --> 00:08:38,66 a lot of. Teachers and teachers that for example I could totally. Reminds 65 00:08:38,67 --> 00:08:45,39 us. Every time I feel upset at what's happened. I have just stepped out of my beam 66 00:08:46,28 --> 00:08:53,28 into my eagle into my life. And what I need to do is recognize that this 67 00:08:53,29 --> 00:08:53,41 is 68 00:08:53,42 --> 00:09:02,12 a signal to step back in my life. Byron Katie tells us. What 69 00:09:02,13 --> 00:09:07,39 happens in the world is exactly what should happen we don't need to get upset about 70 00:09:07,40 --> 00:09:13,27 it. Because otherwise we cannot stay connected to God we're going to respond to 71 00:09:13,28 --> 00:09:17,92 what happens in the world. How do we how do we get our place self to that place 72 00:09:18,08 --> 00:09:24,89 will be able to. Integrate that into our being in our life. Or 73 00:09:24,90 --> 00:09:31,61 scientist led astray from in yours. Because they told us. That 74 00:09:31,77 --> 00:09:38,48 our nature or natural responses were love or Firefly. He said 75 00:09:38,53 --> 00:09:44,27 those are the primary responses when you respond according to the situation. And 76 00:09:44,28 --> 00:09:50,46 finally they learn. That both responses were physiologically the same in other 77 00:09:50,47 --> 00:09:56,68 words we don't have to get the responses we have one response now responses and 78 00:09:56,69 --> 00:10:02,74 arousal pay attention response. Pay attention to what's happened in the world we 79 00:10:02,75 --> 00:10:08,90 have learned from our society. To go to judgment 80 00:10:09,49 --> 00:10:16,34 instead of responding to it pay attention when you do happen to us we first thing 81 00:10:16,35 --> 00:10:22,12 we do is to go over here we judge it in the problem is when we judge it. And we get 82 00:10:22,13 --> 00:10:28,96 a negative response inside ourselves we just hijack our intellect motions have said 83 00:10:28,97 --> 00:10:34,86 your intellect I'm sorry I'm taking over now I'm going to do it the way I know how 84 00:10:34,87 --> 00:10:41,24 to do it and the way I learn how to do it is this way I don't care if it doesn't 85 00:10:41,25 --> 00:10:46,60 work but this is the way we do it so that's kind of the way we we operate our life 86 00:10:46,66 --> 00:10:53,25 we just respond according to the belief that we have. Problems not 87 00:10:54,08 --> 00:11:00,40 the way to spawn problems the belief that. We were true we responded really. 88 00:11:01,45 --> 00:11:08,14 So how do we how do we deal is it good if we want to change this. What do we have 89 00:11:08,15 --> 00:11:13,57 to do we have to change our belief. If we have to change our beliefs. 90 00:11:15,77 --> 00:11:21,79 How do we do that. So we start. By learning to recognise. 91 00:11:22,93 --> 00:11:27,94 When the need arises. It's very simple we have a guiding side of ourselves we have 92 00:11:27,95 --> 00:11:34,29 a spirit. Guys that we have not going to listen to very well. Our spiritual guide 93 00:11:34,30 --> 00:11:39,61 says. That's what will follow or our guide says. 94 00:11:42,90 --> 00:11:49,57 No no. The female brain because we have just disconnected 95 00:11:50,15 --> 00:11:55,25 the signal is my disconnected from God I feel upset I feel pain. That's my 96 00:11:55,26 --> 00:12:01,02 spiritual guide telling me something. If I know how to deal with that pain. I can 97 00:12:01,19 --> 00:12:06,03 take myself back in that place of being can I can do it immediately assuming that 98 00:12:06,72 --> 00:12:11,52 comes to my changes soon as I become aware that I'm just connected if I know how to 99 00:12:11,53 --> 00:12:18,22 act or I can do it. If I remember that I disconnected because of the 100 00:12:18,23 --> 00:12:24,74 beliefs. And because of the way I think. Then 101 00:12:25,37 --> 00:12:28,62 I can. Take myself back to that connection. 102 00:12:33,85 --> 00:12:40,12 By listening to my guiding my guys just pay attention. OK I have one other problem 103 00:12:40,13 --> 00:12:44,82 that I have to focus on I probably grew up. With 104 00:12:44,83 --> 00:12:49,27 a belief system that says this is the way the world works this is what's right and 105 00:12:49,28 --> 00:12:55,32 this is what's wrong. So if I keep operating with that system. I keep saying 106 00:12:56,13 --> 00:13:01,13 my belief says that's wrong I get upset because I believe that I should be upset 107 00:13:01,14 --> 00:13:07,13 and wrong has happened. If I can't change that I can't change. 108 00:13:08,38 --> 00:13:15,30 So what the signal is. Tells me. That I have just 109 00:13:15,31 --> 00:13:21,22 gone or signal that there's something wrong with my belief. Hopes. I made 110 00:13:21,23 --> 00:13:27,26 a mistake and still in that we say you made me mad. What made me mad was my 111 00:13:27,27 --> 00:13:33,11 thinking. Because I thought I should get married yes because it doesn't seem right 112 00:13:33,12 --> 00:13:39,32 to me I believe I should get upset. You know just what if I don't change that very 113 00:13:39,33 --> 00:13:43,29 next time the same thing happens I'm going to go through the same process over and 114 00:13:43,30 --> 00:13:49,66 over again being upset. So we have. A way of dealing with. 115 00:13:50,96 --> 00:13:51,67 We can learn 116 00:13:51,71 --> 00:13:58,65 a new process we have to learn new beliefs. That support the idea that I want 117 00:13:58,66 --> 00:14:03,95 to be happy but I want to return to look we can live with the beliefs that I should 118 00:14:03,96 --> 00:14:09,71 be upset now I should be earning I should be sad because they don't. Keep that 119 00:14:09,72 --> 00:14:16,10 connection. They take us away from our core with money. So. 120 00:14:17,53 --> 00:14:23,35 We can learn a new way like I call the process. That we're doing now the three J. 121 00:14:23,36 --> 00:14:30,17 Process first thing we do is we judge. Then we turn back because it seems wrong to 122 00:14:30,18 --> 00:14:33,44 us and then we jump forward trying to do some sort of action not 123 00:14:33,45 --> 00:14:36,63 a very well thought out action. I had 124 00:14:36,64 --> 00:14:40,58 a really great story illustrates. So I'd fuck up 125 00:14:40,59 --> 00:14:44,04 a story on the story just. As 126 00:14:44,05 --> 00:14:50,70 a little. Content is not appropriate so 127 00:14:51,40 --> 00:14:56,29 I'll skip the story but the point here's. What. 128 00:15:01,52 --> 00:15:07,89 We change the process. We learn three see the process 129 00:15:08,55 --> 00:15:09,34 and to make it 130 00:15:09,35 --> 00:15:15,96 a little more interesting I still see se. But the process years compared to 131 00:15:16,89 --> 00:15:21,74 choose and change so when something happens I have a I put 132 00:15:21,75 --> 00:15:26,14 a new program in my head that says computer which I basically interpret is what I 133 00:15:26,15 --> 00:15:28,05 do now. I take 134 00:15:28,06 --> 00:15:32,53 a look at what's happened I value it with the idea that I want to stay connected 135 00:15:32,94 --> 00:15:36,62 and I know I can stay connected. And so I choose 136 00:15:36,67 --> 00:15:41,69 a response from all of the myriad responses that are available to me I choose one 137 00:15:42,00 --> 00:15:46,47 that will allow me to stay connected to source or stay connected to God if I choose 138 00:15:46,48 --> 00:15:50,84 a good source of says you're wrong or I'm wrong or I mean I'm 139 00:15:50,85 --> 00:15:51,80 a bad person or you're 140 00:15:51,81 --> 00:15:56,94 a bad person I've chosen the wrong thing because I have chosen to disconnect so if 141 00:15:56,95 --> 00:16:01,81 I can remember I want to stay in that place of love. Then it's not difficult to. 142 00:16:03,03 --> 00:16:06,81 Seek Instead the place of love that becomes your really core beliefs that you're 143 00:16:07,17 --> 00:16:12,20 focusing on and every time you're not there you feel deliveries you move back into 144 00:16:12,21 --> 00:16:16,85 that belief. Why do you have 145 00:16:16,89 --> 00:16:23,06 a problem with it it's pretty simple I think most of us basically understand. But 146 00:16:23,56 --> 00:16:27,87 the problem the other scientific principle of you deal with is that our mind 147 00:16:27,88 --> 00:16:32,61 operates our physical mind operates at eleven million bytes per second it's really 148 00:16:32,62 --> 00:16:39,53 amazing I'm sure. But our conscious mind operates at forty four thousand 149 00:16:40,46 --> 00:16:41,85 bytes a second I mean that's like 150 00:16:41,86 --> 00:16:45,93 a little slow dinosaurs like me using the Universe act to try to control the modern 151 00:16:46,28 --> 00:16:51,95 computer. So all the things that are happening in our life actually happen 152 00:16:52,95 --> 00:16:59,10 before we actually become aware of when somebody says I can't. I can't help using 153 00:16:59,11 --> 00:17:04,43 my wife. He's actually speaking in truth because he's responding to 154 00:17:04,44 --> 00:17:09,83 a belief that he has that he acts out before he thinks about it what he needs to do 155 00:17:09,87 --> 00:17:10,37 is put in 156 00:17:10,38 --> 00:17:16,76 a new program which says. At the very least assist I think before I'm. Just putting 157 00:17:16,77 --> 00:17:20,89 that program in place so all of our problems I have one book is called My checklist 158 00:17:20,90 --> 00:17:23,55 for life and that's kind of what it's about I need to have 159 00:17:23,56 --> 00:17:29,60 a checklist before I do things like go around acting based on my responses what do 160 00:17:29,61 --> 00:17:34,71 I care I get. What actions are based on what I know from 161 00:17:34,72 --> 00:17:40,07 the. Other prong related to that because I put in 162 00:17:40,08 --> 00:17:44,57 a new believe this is Will Cain this is the way it is I should always respond in 163 00:17:44,58 --> 00:17:49,42 love but you know what I took ten thousand police back there that have 164 00:17:49,43 --> 00:17:53,97 a lot of negative stuff going on so every time something comes up relating to those 165 00:17:53,98 --> 00:17:59,79 things. That I have those attachments stripped I go back to those only negative 166 00:17:59,80 --> 00:18:04,12 thoughts rather than being able to stay in the sort of love so I'm like oh I need 167 00:18:04,13 --> 00:18:10,92 to really learn to stop and look to harmonize my belief system it's all. Consistent 168 00:18:10,93 --> 00:18:15,29 with the new thought that I have that says I want to be alone. No it's not 169 00:18:15,30 --> 00:18:20,06 consistent Well I need to do some work first of all I need to learn this process of 170 00:18:20,07 --> 00:18:27,05 the three C. I need in order to use this process. Of something happens I have 171 00:18:27,06 --> 00:18:32,73 this what do I do now instead of present right or wrong give up on your own say 172 00:18:32,74 --> 00:18:36,88 what I do now and always assume. That there's 173 00:18:36,89 --> 00:18:43,68 a partially choice available. It's my job. To find this positive choice 174 00:18:44,23 --> 00:18:48,77 and bring him back to life. OK now that works pretty good on 175 00:18:48,78 --> 00:18:55,77 a one time basis. But it doesn't work. Really well in the long run unless I 176 00:18:55,78 --> 00:18:55,94 do 177 00:18:55,95 --> 00:19:01,67 a little more work. Like you know I've been using my computer every good. And I print 178 00:19:02,27 --> 00:19:08,96 one copy but the top print there comes as well today I want can copy and I get the 179 00:19:08,97 --> 00:19:12,94 print but well now I got the line more because I have put 180 00:19:12,95 --> 00:19:18,16 a program in place that says stuff and take the right number of jobs so we have to 181 00:19:18,17 --> 00:19:18,30 do 182 00:19:18,31 --> 00:19:22,96 a little bit more were assessed by other stock to start here this place and decide 183 00:19:22,97 --> 00:19:26,50 how many copies of One for example. So we need to have 184 00:19:26,51 --> 00:19:30,49 a program that works for us and once we have 185 00:19:30,50 --> 00:19:36,63 a program The worse than what we have to do. You know we have to do. 186 00:19:38,62 --> 00:19:43,51 We have to. Keep practicing We have to keep doing it over again. 187 00:19:46,12 --> 00:19:50,92 Until we actually integrate that response we're going to slide back into the open 188 00:19:51,52 --> 00:19:55,94 and if we see say well I can't do this new stuff I keep doing the old wrong stuff. 189 00:19:56,99 --> 00:20:03,41 But it's not so difficult change I'll tell one life story. Everybody's going to 190 00:20:03,42 --> 00:20:08,72 turn and look at it. Because she enjoys being embarrassed by me. 191 00:20:10,46 --> 00:20:16,07 But. One of the things that she did after about seven years of marriage she used 192 00:20:16,08 --> 00:20:21,29 the cereal she discovered discovered So what I do every morning for three months I 193 00:20:21,30 --> 00:20:26,90 get up in the morning and go look and discover for cereal it's not there. So I go 194 00:20:26,91 --> 00:20:31,06 over here and get well I know the answer to fix it but you know that's very 195 00:20:31,07 --> 00:20:35,00 inefficient to be doing that every morning so I finally said to myself you know 196 00:20:35,11 --> 00:20:39,38 enough is enough this time of the attention of this problem you know we took you 197 00:20:39,39 --> 00:20:44,27 three days to train myself to look in the right cupboard for the cereal and if I 198 00:20:44,28 --> 00:20:47,60 had paid attention in the training I'd probably still be looking in the wrong 199 00:20:47,61 --> 00:20:52,18 governor certainly So it takes training it's not unfortunately it's not like 200 00:20:52,19 --> 00:20:56,72 a computer we can't just delete your program is gone we have to override the 201 00:20:56,73 --> 00:20:58,11 program by running 202 00:20:58,12 --> 00:21:04,10 a new program. Over and over again until you get stronger than your program and 203 00:21:04,11 --> 00:21:08,16 they're not going to set on your program appears again just reinforcing your 204 00:21:08,17 --> 00:21:15,16 program once we do that. We really start changing your life. We don't accept 205 00:21:15,25 --> 00:21:21,98 the idea anymore that I can stay connected I can stand alone we say oh I made 206 00:21:21,99 --> 00:21:23,18 a mistake I just stepped out 207 00:21:23,19 --> 00:21:28,95 a lot now I need to step back and in the beginning you'll do that quite often. 208 00:21:30,40 --> 00:21:35,03 Pretty soon the new habits start developing you find very rarely that you have to 209 00:21:35,04 --> 00:21:39,29 stop and remind yourself that you have to do corrections you have stuff that comes 210 00:21:39,30 --> 00:21:43,58 up from time to time and you know how to do to do it one of the simple ones I can 211 00:21:43,59 --> 00:21:48,96 remember there's no this is an easy one but if somebody cuts I was on the phone cut 212 00:21:48,97 --> 00:21:52,36 you off in traffic. For Service have 213 00:21:52,37 --> 00:21:58,88 a tendency to be irritated by somebody taking your space. You starting to think 214 00:21:58,89 --> 00:22:02,68 about it in your set up a new pattern well yes maybe there's 215 00:22:02,69 --> 00:22:04,98 a need to move what you have or nothing else I can be 216 00:22:04,99 --> 00:22:09,84 a good guy. So I run that pattern a few times and then all of 217 00:22:09,85 --> 00:22:16,32 a sudden like I get upset about it. For me the simple way out of that is to laugh 218 00:22:16,33 --> 00:22:22,82 at myself for making the dumb mistake over it thought more practice. So those are 219 00:22:22,83 --> 00:22:28,87 the things that we can learn. So we learn to listen to our signals. 220 00:22:30,27 --> 00:22:32,45 And we don't listen. It's 221 00:22:32,46 --> 00:22:38,95 a little bit like. We're in the woods. 222 00:22:40,86 --> 00:22:46,68 And we want to find a game if we've been trained as a track or we recognize 223 00:22:46,69 --> 00:22:52,16 a signal and we're able to follow the game to its source and get our going or if we 224 00:22:52,17 --> 00:22:58,22 don't understand how to read the signals we start. So we have stuff is not 225 00:22:58,23 --> 00:23:04,90 producing what we want in our life. Learn to read signals. Listen to your. 226 00:23:06,09 --> 00:23:12,90 Inner guy. It's really telling you something and understand that you have the 227 00:23:12,91 --> 00:23:19,05 power. You know it's worthwhile. And you now 228 00:23:19,93 --> 00:23:25,07 know that you can get the knowledge you need to make change because it's there not 229 00:23:25,08 --> 00:23:30,17 just leaves you with your work in the cracks. In the benefits and the rewards of 230 00:23:30,18 --> 00:23:32,58 what you're so music. I have 231 00:23:32,59 --> 00:23:39,28 a. Granddaughter I color my no limit 232 00:23:39,29 --> 00:23:45,75 granddaughter if how many of you read Wayne Dyer. For you then you know what no 233 00:23:45,76 --> 00:23:49,22 limit the limit term probably just comes from Wayne Dyer but he wrote 234 00:23:49,23 --> 00:23:51,88 a book on parenting. Quite 235 00:23:51,89 --> 00:23:55,84 a few years ago because I think it was at twenty some years ago that I was 236 00:23:55,85 --> 00:23:59,31 impressed by the book I was so impressed with the book I did I have this problem 237 00:23:59,37 --> 00:24:05,52 crying in the text once I try it when I read the book but I. Sat down and I put 238 00:24:05,66 --> 00:24:11,60 about five hours of that book on tape and I gave those tapes to my daughter. And we 239 00:24:11,61 --> 00:24:16,88 kept being amazed at all the stuff like granddaughter quite funny my daughter said 240 00:24:17,55 --> 00:24:23,49 you know Dad I'm using those tapes. I'm using those tapes to razor she would do 241 00:24:23,50 --> 00:24:28,84 stuff like one of the things I remembers on our fifteenth birthday I got 242 00:24:28,85 --> 00:24:30,62 a postcard from Russia I got 243 00:24:30,63 --> 00:24:35,46 a Trans-Am for my birthday it doesn't have an engine in it right now but I'm going 244 00:24:35,47 --> 00:24:35,99 to rebuild 245 00:24:36,00 --> 00:24:40,72 a small rock or fifty engine and put it will be ready for me I'm sixteen should be 246 00:24:40,73 --> 00:24:46,99 a. Serial that she she sets records on the dragstrip track with 247 00:24:47,00 --> 00:24:53,86 a car that was not my favorite choice of what to do. With she believes you could 248 00:24:53,87 --> 00:24:58,46 do it so she did. She wrote 249 00:24:58,47 --> 00:25:04,41 a column. Weekly column for the newspaper on pets and I was going to pet stores 250 00:25:04,42 --> 00:25:08,34 while she's still in grade school and they would ask Chris 251 00:25:08,35 --> 00:25:13,95 a consultant or handle things because she she was interested in insurance and she 252 00:25:14,00 --> 00:25:18,65 did. Others So I got 253 00:25:18,66 --> 00:25:25,04 a signal so. Almost tell the whole story but the bottom line is is this when she 254 00:25:25,05 --> 00:25:25,22 was 255 00:25:25,23 --> 00:25:32,49 a little. Early teens. Pat my wife said to her the 256 00:25:32,50 --> 00:25:39,25 other one. What things do you fear in life. Never going to 257 00:25:39,26 --> 00:25:39,72 screw up 258 00:25:39,73 --> 00:25:48,03 a trace she said. I can't think of anything. To 259 00:25:48,04 --> 00:25:53,71 be at that place in life that's what we all want to be in if we learn those lessons 260 00:25:54,42 --> 00:25:56,32 will be that it does take 261 00:25:56,33 --> 00:25:59,89 a little bit of work to learn and because it's like going back to school again for 262 00:25:59,90 --> 00:26:06,14 a little bit but you know that. The rewards are so many times worth the After 263 00:26:06,97 --> 00:26:12,26 that it's really valuable to do don't just pick up the book and say this is 264 00:26:12,27 --> 00:26:16,28 a possibility recognize if I did the work this is one. 265 00:26:56,76 --> 00:26:57,39 Oh. 266 00:28:03,96 --> 00:28:04,57 The. 267 00:28:14,26 --> 00:28:15,01 There's. 268 00:28:23,67 --> 00:28:23,90 No.